Mark
Mark (pseudonym) was referred to Big Brothers Big Sisters by his mother. A kind, energetic and caring young boy, Mark had been experiencing challenges at school following an ADHD diagnosis. He had also been exposed to family violence, and with his father in prison, lacked consistent positive male role models in his life.
Mark was matched with a tuakana with shared interests in the outdoors and cars. From their first meeting, the connection was immediate. Together, they spend time tramping, biking, swimming, and bonding over their shared passion for vehicles, creating a space where Mark feels seen, understood, and valued.
After just three months, the impact has been significant. Mark now waits eagerly on the front step for his tuakana’s arrival each week. His growing sense of self-confidence is evident; after one visit, he told his mother, “Mum, you know my ADHD, it is a superpower.” This shift in mindset has supported him to better understand himself and begin developing strategies to manage his impulses.
The positive changes extend beyond Mark to his wider whānau. His sister noted a marked reduction in emotional outbursts: “He used to have tantrums five or six times a week after school. Now it’s maybe once a month.”
In a short time, Mark’s journey reflects the power of trusted relationships, positive role modelling, and strengths-based support. His whānau are now actively encouraging his growth, with his tuakana expressing hope and commitment to supporting his ongoing development.
Kyle
Kyle was referred to Big Brothers Big Sisters through his school. He had been in foster care for five years due to family harm and drug use. He was recently returned to his mother’s care and was struggling with behaviour, settling into school, and adjusting to family life. He also has some developmental delays.
Kyle is a kind and optimistic young man who loves animals and McDonald’s. His tuakana has given him the opportunity to try new things. They go for bike rides, walks along the beach, and trips to the park. He has also taken him on the Wellington cable car and for rides on the crocodile bikes.
As they are both Tokelauan, his tuakana has brought Kyle along to a number of community activities and introduced him to Waka Ama, which he loves. They recently attended an end-of-year group match event - white water rafting - where Kyle was like a fish, jumping in and out of the raft and floating down the river, showing confidence built through his Waka Ama experience.
Kyle’s teacher has noticed a significant change in his behaviour. He is much more settled at school and now has something to share every Monday about his weekend. He is becoming more comfortable within himself and his identity, thanks in large part to his wonderful tuakana.
Kyle is gaining confidence and is more willing to take on challenges. He is currently aiming to reach the top of the climbing tree by the end of summer.
